Friday, 20 November 2015

14 Important Questions Singles Need to Answer before Dating.

14 Important Questions Singles need to Answer before Dating.

Love in the air just like those special events like Valentine's Day coming and going every year which reminds me how difficult it can be to retain the spirit of who you are when you're even as a Christian single.
It just sometimes feels like it would be easier to mold yourself into whatever your dating partners want, and then you can get on with living happily.
I was recently reminded of this when I run into a beautiful energetic,positive, social, Christian girl,on our discussion that day she was telling me about her new boyfriend who
don't like to socialize, he was quiet and reserved an introvert she said on her visit to the guy all they did was to watch DSTV.

They didn't even put up things to mark the celebration, nothing like red colours because he thought it was all a waste of time. This from my friend who usually wears a Christmas hat for the entire month of December.
As we chatted, she kept justifying all of the things that they obviously didn't have in common. I then noticed her usually dancing eyes had lost their shine. How sad, I thought. Why had she given up on
her spirit? During my many years of single life, I attended a workshop where one of the exercises was to write down all of the things that we were looking for in a partner. But in order to do that, we first had to write down all of the things that
defined us as individual human.

This prompted wonderful series of Soul searching questions listed below. You can as well use these questions to evaluate yourself.

1. What did I believe in?

2. What role did God play in my life?

3. What were my values?

4. What was important to me?

5. On career, did I work to live, or
live to work?

6. What did I do for fun?

7. What are my hobbies?

8. What Are things that do offend me?

9. What did I consider to be right and wrong, moral and immoral, ethical and unethical?

10. What is my stand in politics?

11. What were my dreams?

12. What goals did I have?

13. What value do i place on my family and the desire for more kids?

14. Can i really tolerate him or her?

By defining what I wanted in another person, I was first clarifying and refining my own self image and my own spirit.
I decided to develop a vision of a Christian singles partner who will be my wife.
I became more and more committed to sustaining my spirit while searching for a partner and today i am happily married to my soulmate and best friend,Agatha . You too can do the same. Answer those questions above and understand what you stand for,having in mind that no one is perfect. Then you can continue your search for like-minded people. Your spirit will truly sing when you start getting to know your life partner. Its not late to start building a successful relationship today. Think Positive.

Hope Uchemadu
Speaker,Live & Business Coach.
Follow me on twitter @ Mr_Uchemadu

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