Saturday, 9 January 2016

Why Not Create Rules Instead Of Goals or Resolutions

God will provide all your heart desired today. I’m convinced that creating goals or resolutions is hardwired into us, because we can’t stop making them. Unfortunately, we’re not as equipped for making the goals come true, and the pattern most of us have seen is that we start a goal with optimism, only to be disappointed when we haven’t done much after the first or second week. In my previous article,i talked about how negative talk can kill your ambition,deter you from achieving success and how to stop it.

Today, i want to talk about resolutions and alternative steps to achieve your goals. I’d like to suggest that you try creating rules that will make your goals happen.

A rule in this case is an action you do after a specific event happens, as consistently as you can, which will lead to your goal happening.

Some examples for different goals:

* Write a book: When I turn on my computer, I will shut off the browser, modem and all other programs but my text editor, and i'll write for 1 hour.
*Learn French: When am relaxing, I will listen to my french tapes and practice.

*Read more: When it’s 9:30 p.m., I turn off the computer, get ready for bed, and read my book with a target if 3 chapters.

* Morning Exercise: When my alarm goes off at 6 a.m., go out and do my 30 minutes sports the day. Or stretch if it’s a rest day.

2) When it’s lunch or dinner, i eat my favourites prepared by my wife.

3) If I’m hungry in between, eat apples, carrots, or plain nuts.

4) Drink only tea or water, except a cup of green lemon tea to start the day.

* Be more mindful: When I wake up, I pee, pray, drink a glass of water, then meditate for 15 to 20 minutes.

None of these rules will get you all the way to the goal, but they’ll get you much farther than you are now.


Of course, a rule is great in theory, but much harder to put into practice. So I’d like to make a few suggestions:

1. Implement one at a time. When you’ve done one for a week or two, then implement another, but never have too many going at once. I’ve found that five fairly new ones are my max.

2. Make each one small (5-20 minutes for something hard, up to 30 minutes for something easy).

3. Don’t expect perfection —allow yourself to mess up, but try to do better.

4. If you keep messing up, set up some accountability, or change your environment so it’s easier to implement.

5. Don’t start with food rules. Food is the hardest, because we’re not really aware of all the things going on, like emotional eating or parts of our brain sending hormones to make us really hungry. When you do food rules, do one at a time, and try to change your environment so that there aren’t tempting foods all around you. If you can’t get rid of the foods, don’t go where they are very often.

6. Mindfulness rules are the best to start with, because they make following the other rules easier. If you dont have the right mind set, you will not achieve your goals.

7. Set computer or phone reminders, or put up visual reminders like notes wherever the rule is supposed to happen. Like i have mine pasted at room door,bed side,mirror and fridge.

What you’ll find is that the rules need adjusting as you figure out what works for you and what doesn’t. You’ll find that you forget at first — in which case you should set reminders. You’ll find that some rules really need a change in environment, others might need accountability. What you’ll learn is that this is an incredible learning process, as you start to understand how you work best.

Rules are small steps that add up to huge changes over time, and they’re ones that you’ll actually make happen. What one rule can you create today that will have a big impact on your life? Think and make a proper planning.

Hire me to speak at your event,seminar etc to re-engineer you and your audience with words that will spur them to success and helping them create value for their lives.

Think Positive.

1 comment:

  1. Perfect, goal setting/time management is paramount to productivity...thanks for sharing